The reason we use the term “toilet choosing” instead of “toilet training” 
is that the child really does have to choose to use the toilet. Trying to 
pressure children into giving up diapers usually leads to power struggles, 
rebellion, and, as a result, even more delay. The good news is that all 
healthy children will eventually choose the potty over diapers. 
     Even though it is inconvenient that your daughter remains in diapers, 
pressuring her will only delay the moment when she will choose to use 
the potty. We suggest that you also avoid rewards, which are actually 
a subtle kind of pressure and rarely work well. There are a few positive 
strategies for encouraging your daughter to make the transition. Regularly 
invite children over for play dates. Children at this age are great imitators 
of other children and if her friends are all using the potty, she may too. 
Substitute pull-ups for diapers, so that she can experiment with the potty 
on her own. Buy her some pretty underwear and let her wear it if she 
wants. She may decide on her own that she would like to keep it dry 
and clean. 
     Even though it may seem at times like the proverbial elephant in 
the room, try not to focus on this issue. Children mature on different 
timetables. It is important for your daughter’s emotional development 
that you give her the space to make her own choice to use the potty. 
Then when she does make the transition, she will also experience an 
increased self-confidence that will carry over into other areas of her life.