Don't forget discipline works only because we are bigger and stronger and 
because we control the resources they need. Given that the ultimate basis 
for our ability to manage our children's behavior is power, and given all 
children copy the way their parents treat them, how we use the power we 
have will shape the way our children treat themselves and how they treat 
others. Time-outs and consequences are emotionally harsh even though 
they are not physically violent. When children copy these strategies for 
handling differences of opinion, they may become adults who withdraw 
from relationships when the other  disagrees with them or who use money 
or other material goods in controlling, punitive ways. This is why we 
advocate loving regulation as a way of managing children's behavior. In 
loving regulation, the parent steps in and regulates the behavior without 
ever adding unpleasant consequences such as time-outs. Loving regulation 
is nonviolent parenting; in this increasingly violent world, we need to raise 
our children to be adults who can tolerate others' differences without 
resorting to violence-physical or emotional.